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john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:12
a deep meaningful thread by john_lillie

this is weird isn't it?

anyway, (turns into serious mode)

there is a lass i like and have for ages. she asked me out a few times ages ago but i turned her down. i once asked her out about 3 years ago but she was seeing someone.

i was chating away on msn last night when she came on with the name 'i hate boys' (she isn't going lesbo apparently). she has just split up with this guy she has been seeing for 3 and a half years.

she is up here this week and then back to uni. what should i do?

corruptbiggins Posted on 18/1 12:13
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ask shaun for advice.

foomanboro Posted on 18/1 12:14
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Out of interest, if you liked her ages, why did you turn her down a few times?

toots Posted on 18/1 12:15
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why did you turn her down when she asked you out before?

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:15
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i dunno mr man. i was young and stupid.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:15
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I'd be careful, Mr Lillie. Does she still feel anything for you, or were her feelings originally teenage crushes?

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:15
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it was about 7 years ago when she asked me out and i didn't know her hardly.

Shackerooni Posted on 18/1 12:15
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Stick it up her bum.

boroboy75 Posted on 18/1 12:16
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fooman, she's obviously a bit of a dog, hence him turning her down three times.
Three years have since passed, and it appears that mr_lillee is no longer fussy, due to his desperation to get his 'end away'.

Shackerooni Posted on 18/1 12:17
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Sorry, went into comfortable_shoes mode then.

Take her for a cup of tea and sandwich. Then judge the mood while deciding on a possible pudding.

foomanboro Posted on 18/1 12:17
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Didn't you used to have a bird that you used to sponge off? What happened to her?

Will this new bird adopt to your lifestyle choice?

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:18
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Do you know her away from MSN nowadays. For example, last time she was up did you meet up as friends?

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:18
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foomanboro Posted on 18/1 12:17
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Didn't you used to have a bird that you used to sponge off? What happened to her?

Will this new bird adopt to your lifestyle choice?


me and shaun 84 are different people!

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:20
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Were you going through a bit of a gay spell when you turned her down?

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:21
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BB75, she isn't a dog.

shaun, i met up over christmas accidentally.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:21
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gill, i aren't gay and never have been

foomanboro Posted on 18/1 12:23
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Really? I was sure it was you? It was a long time ago mind, but i think it was the first time i thought i saw you post something on these boards.

Ah well, a case of mistaken identity i guess?

toots Posted on 18/1 12:24
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probly not a good time to start something with someone when theyve just split up with someone else. might as well meet up with her, tho, cant do any harm, can it? keep the friendship warm, kind of thing, n it might develop.

boroboy75 Posted on 18/1 12:26
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toots, but he might get a 'rebound shag'.

littlefella Posted on 18/1 12:26
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get in to her and ........

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:26
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I think you know the answer is to leave it for now. That username suggests if anything did happen it would be a rebound situation. You obviously care enough already to have started this thread, so a few weeks down the line if she was just rebounding I could see you getting hurt.

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:26
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She might be gagging for it tho, Toots.
And John can't be getting much if he's considering being gay.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:28
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dear god, i'm not gay.

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:29
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Shaun,
Get a grip. Chicks don't like nice blokes.
If John Lillie needs to unload, he needs to unload and this bint should consider herself lucky.

toots Posted on 18/1 12:29
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i feel that john's a touch more tender hearted than all you world weary older blokes who only think with that one part of the anatomy.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:30
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I'm offended!!!

foomanboro Posted on 18/1 12:31
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When a girl writes: "I hate boys"

this actualy translate from girl-speak as:

"I hate boys, but i want a boy to prove me wrong!"

So don't listen to toots. Go for it my son, be her knight in shining armour.

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:31
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Toots,
When you're younger, you think with it even more. It's just being older that makes you realise it

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:31
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thank you toots

toots Posted on 18/1 12:31
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oh, not by me, i hope!

youre welcome, john lillie.

no, its not true, gillzean. my recent experiences have shown me that.

--- Post edited by toots on 18/1 12:35 ---

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:33
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....think Toots is single, John......

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:34
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scuzzmonster Posted on 18/1 12:34
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Mean, moody and magnificent, john_lillie. Always works in the movies.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:35
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This has really just been a deceitful method of pulling toots, hasn't it john?

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:35
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She is that, Scuzz.
Best not to try it on in the cinema though, maybe in a shop doorway.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:36
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thats right shaun, i do hope she is at football tonight!

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:36
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She will be now!

toots Posted on 18/1 12:37
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i was going to come to southlands tonight, im too scared now.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:38
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Yeah yeah... No toots appearances for months, Lillie does his tender heart routine and you're straightover!

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:40
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lol, i was trying to get her over so you could get your long awaited go.

toots Posted on 18/1 12:41
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well, ok... looks like you caught us both out.

one lovely postman
there's only one lovely postman...

id like to ask what i should do, but i wont.

--- Post edited by toots on 18/1 12:43 ---

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:42
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ha ha ha, anyway, back to the origonal meaning of this thread. what should i do?

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 12:42
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I was not in on all this, I'll have you know.


(Cheers john!! )

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:42
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Ask Shaun out?

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:44
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gill, shaun isn't my type

captain5 Posted on 18/1 12:44
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Don't worry, toots. Me and bix will look after you.

GillZean Posted on 18/1 12:44
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Too butch? Or too non-scene?

comfortable_shoes Posted on 18/1 12:50
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stick it up her bum!!

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 12:53
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about time comfy!

oh toots, inside southlands is non-smoking now.

corruptbiggins Posted on 18/1 13:10
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I get it now, it's a thinly veiled attempt to get a hundred. Talking about women ususally works!

Well I won't stand for it. I'll take the 50 though...

comfortable_shoes Posted on 18/1 13:14
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Seriously give her a call and go out for a date, you are both older and more mature now. What harm could be done? it may be the start of something nice, if not, both move on.

Guis_Boro Posted on 18/1 13:36
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Agree with Comfy John, give it a go. If it doesn't work out you can always go back to the sheep

toots Posted on 18/1 13:45
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thats good, john lillie, the non smoking thing. i really have to give up.

i think you should see if the girl wants to meet up with you, n just see how it goes. seems to be the majority view here.

GillZean Posted on 18/1 13:47
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Toots,
You're right, you will have to give up. I don't mind a woman with disgusting habits, but not smoking....

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 13:48
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well she asked what i was doing today as she went to boro on the train. she wanted me to visit her at uni as well some time.

Mobb_Deep Posted on 18/1 13:53
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Maybe she needs to use you for an experiment there? Is she doing science?

toots Posted on 18/1 13:54
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yeah, i know its gross, but at the same time so enjoyable.


well, john lillie, sounds good, i dont want to say anything negative to put you off, because i think you should go ahead n dare to do what you want, n if it turns out badly, thats just the way things go, n you learn from it, but at least you went for it.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 13:55
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i'm not sure what degree it is, but it isn't science. think it's art/drama type stuff.

janplanner Posted on 18/1 13:56
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meet her, talk to her, and find out what she's thinking.

she's made it clear she's like to see you, now you need to find out why. go for it, life is too short.

boroboy75 Posted on 18/1 13:57
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Just give her a ring, and ask her out.
Remember not to go out with a 'loaded weapon'.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 13:57
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shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 13:58
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I'd love to hear Dear Deidre come out with that!

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 13:58
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isn't it too soon after a long relationship?

but if i leave it she'll probly get someone else and i'll have to kick myself yet again.

decisions decisions.

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:00
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do you want to marry her, or go out for a drink with her???!!!

some people are serial relationshipists, they're never single, so you'd best get in there. if you don't meet her you'll never know what might have been.

Mobb_Deep Posted on 18/1 14:02
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Wy are you talking about relationships? She said she wants you to visit her, how does that mean you're going to knob her? If she wants it then she'll let you know.

Nedkat Posted on 18/1 14:06
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John, life's far too short to even contemplate not asking the lady out for a drink. If you like each other, then be it as it may. It might even turn into something great, it might work out that you like each other and you've both got a new friend. Get yerself on the phone now, a simple question, "Hey, fancy going for a drink one night" ...? Don't think about it, or you'll be coming onto message boards, asking 70 odd people who've you've never met, for advice.

Best of luck ....

Ned

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:09
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true ned. thanks.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:10
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it was possably the worst thing i could do losing my phone and thus her number though!

anyway, i'll send her an email or something.

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:11
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do it right now, before you change your mind.

toots Posted on 18/1 14:12
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yeah, thats the best advice yet... just dont think too much, what if? what if? it might be too soon for a relationship, you might have to be patient, it might not come to that... just go for it n see how it goes.

Nedkat Posted on 18/1 14:13
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And don't forget, we all need an update ....

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:13
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I don't mean to be unsympathetic to the cause here but thinking ahead if she's not interested, could you forward her email address to me as I may be in a similar situation to her now and she might need to chat. Thank you!

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:14
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i thought you had toots to go for first. and email me please shaun.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:15
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I was bloody serious!!

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:17
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i know you were. isn't 19 a bit to old for you anyway?

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:18
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19?! Hmmm, does she have pigtails?

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:19
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oy!

GillZean Posted on 18/1 14:24
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John,
If you ned someone else to give you a kick, just give me a shout.

Toots,
Most disgusting habits are enjoyable, but about smoking, right......

bunder_ben Posted on 18/1 14:24
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i was once in a similar situation to yours john.....a will it, won't it scenario that went on for years with what seemed to be multiple misunderstandings and miscommunications on both sides. whenever it came to the crunch though, i bottled it up. result? she is married to some rugby-playing idiot in chelmsford, and i am left with an over-grown record collection and bad knees, wondering what might have been.

so don't be like me! gerrit done! then at least you'll know. or shaun will.




--- Post edited by bunder_ben on 18/1 14:26 ---

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:26
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i wouldn't have minded the knees, but the record collection has swung it for me!

email has been sent

bunder_ben Posted on 18/1 14:28
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you're a wise man. see you tonight anyway

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:28
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good for you.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:29
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john - have you gone yet, as you were saying in your email? Not that this thread would ever go missing whilst in its 90's due to "oh, that post? Someone posted something racist. It had to all go."

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:32
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no still here.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:33
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oops.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:34
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if you do it's no cd for you!

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:36
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No, this is a proper potential 100-post thread. No need to count down the last 20.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:38
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oh ok then

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 14:38
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11 more by the way

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:40
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I don't mean to tempt fate, but if it gets to 100, it means she'll say No

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:43
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that's unkind.

only 9 now.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:44
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meanie


(8)

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:48
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no. you're the meanie.

(7)

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:50
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I hope that he doesn't go all warped and really blame us if it all goes wrong. Some people are great believers in fate.

SIX

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:52
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i don't see what there is to go wrong?
other than him not getting a shag, of course.



5

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:53
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That's a good point, my partner in crime

4

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:57
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i'm your partner in nothing, honey.

3

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:58
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2

Piquet2 Posted on 18/1 14:58
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Tick tock 1

janplanner Posted on 18/1 14:59
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oh, ok then. just crime mind.

1

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 14:59
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a 100th post taken away from me at the last hurdle...

--- Post edited by shaun_84 on 18/1 15:01 ---

janplanner Posted on 18/1 15:03
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hey hey! i've never done that before!

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:04
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I'm not posting to you. A bit of silent treatment is in order.

--- Post edited by shaun_84 on 18/1 15:05 ---

PhillyMac Posted on 18/1 15:08
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John Lillie:

Play this right and you might become this girl's booty call.

It is, I'm assured, a very advantageous position to be in, although I wouldn't know.

Please see link if you have no idea what I'm talking about.

Link: Booty call

janplanner Posted on 18/1 15:08
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oh, come on. that was piquets fault, not mine.

remember why you're here !?!

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:10
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*mumbles something with a suspect bitter f-word in it*

janplanner Posted on 18/1 15:12
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shaun................

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:15
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*mumbles again, he obviously wants to talk now but is too stubborn*

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:16
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*accidentally smiles, and then does a mean look to show he's still peed off*

janplanner Posted on 18/1 15:16
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oh, come onnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.


shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:17
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*smiles :) but not a full . He's going to milk this*

MIRO Posted on 18/1 15:19
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toots:"probly not a good time to start something with someone when theyve just split up with someone else. might as well meet up with her, tho, cant do any harm, can it? keep the friendship warm, kind of thing, n it might develop"

- is it really you toots? I can't recognize you.... too serious...
.
.
.
"i feel that john's a touch more tender hearted than all you world weary older blokes who only think with that one part of the anatomy."

-oh yeah! It's definitely you! All went back to normal as I can see

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:21
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Now I'm going to have that awkward scenario where I'm pretending to be fine to you, and still try to be peed off with planner. All in one face.

janplanner Posted on 18/1 15:21
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i'll run out of patience if you carry on too long.
i'm not used to small children.

one last try for a real smile.

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:23
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*floats*

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 15:23
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afternoon/evening miro.

anyway, whatever will be will be and all that.

captain5 Posted on 18/1 15:23
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Howay, shaun, if you can a new four bedroom house after a bit of persuasion by your lass, you could at least give the young lady a proper smile.

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 15:25
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may i ask what is floating?

shaun_84 Posted on 18/1 15:26
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I thought it was quite a decent smile. Complete with an extension *naughty laugh*

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 15:27
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anyway, bus to catch. will report on the happenings if there is any.

MIRO Posted on 18/1 15:28
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hi john
"email has been sent" - any answer already?
BTW when you said "i was young and stupid" does it mean you are no longer young but only stupid now?

janplanner Posted on 18/1 15:30
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such generosity!!!

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 15:30
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thats right miro!

no reply as yet. she is in boro so it won't be until tonight/tommorow when i get a reply.

anyway, the bus will go without me again! thanks everyone for your help.

The_Needle_Threader Posted on 18/1 15:39
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nice post Miro, good work

John, give her a call, take it slow as she on the rebound but see what happens

i was in a similar situation a few months back, tried to go slow, got too involved, got my d1ck wet, then the ex came knocking and it was bye bye threader

talk to her and see what happens

MIRO Posted on 18/1 15:45
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Cheers T_N_T! Hope you are fine!

corruptbiggins Posted on 18/1 16:15
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I don't believe it, he managed it.

I will forever curse this day.

riverboat_captain Posted on 18/1 16:27
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Give her the willy, lillie.

The_Needle_Threader Posted on 18/1 16:47
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im ok Miro, no word from Lucy

please chase her up, im getting worried i wont get one!!

toots Posted on 18/1 18:48
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miro -

MIRO Posted on 18/1 20:58
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you are welcome toots!

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 23:25
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evil miro!

MIRO Posted on 18/1 23:46
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john...john....john another show of your completely wrong understanding of my words.... (but only if it's not another show of my poor english)

john_lillie Posted on 18/1 23:50
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only joking mate

anyway, she is on msn again now and have told her how i feel. she doesn't believe me.

MIRO Posted on 19/1 0:00
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Really? What does she thought then? That you are only joking or what?
BTW Are you sure the MSN is the best way how to express your feelings to woman? Isn't there any risk of she could take it as lack of your courage? I mean wouldn't women prefer to hear it personaly? Face to face...? I'm only asking - don't want to offend you or so....

NorfolknGood Posted on 19/1 0:18
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ffs.
She asked you out 3 times and you turned her down. It was 7 years ago. She is 19 and you are applying to Uni so you are 17 or 18 or thick. Ergo she asked you out 3 times and you turned her down when she was 12 and you were 10 or 11 o in special school.

She's probably forgottten that she even knew you then and if she hasnt she probably would like to.

Look at her as a bird you have met. If you want it, ask her out. If you dont fcuk it. Or not as the case may be.