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tom_mate Posted on 06/02/2011 10:18
My girlfriend left me last night.

I know it's pathetic to spill my heart on a messageboard but I really need help, I can't deal with it.
Nothing had happened she just said she doesn't love me anymore and that it's not because I've anything I've done.
I've been an idiot and pretty much set my goals in life which all revolved around her and me being together. I lied awake all night last night and have been sat up crying all morning. I know it sounds pathetic but I just can't cope with this.

IsaacHunt Posted on 06/02/2011 10:19
My girlfriend left me last night.

She's found someone else. Deal with it yer wimp.

LingdaleLegend Posted on 06/02/2011 10:19
My girlfriend left me last night.


YOU SHOULD BUY YOURSELF A NICE TRACTOR TO CHEER YOURSELF UP YOUNG UN [^]

wally_falconer Posted on 06/02/2011 10:19
My girlfriend left me last night.

Cue the smash her back doors comments

perryboy Posted on 06/02/2011 10:20
My girlfriend left me last night.

I was ripping her back out last night, she wasnt bothered so why are you

borobadge Posted on 06/02/2011 10:20
My girlfriend left me last night.

lyed....

and the boro got beat....[:D]

i'd go and see your mate, tom.

could_it_be Posted on 06/02/2011 10:21
My girlfriend left me last night.

i cant think why she would leave a real man like you[?]

scuzzmonster1 Posted on 06/02/2011 10:21
My girlfriend left me last night.

lay...

Lisbonlegend Posted on 06/02/2011 10:24
My girlfriend left me last night.

Plenty more fish in the sea, it probably doesn't feel like it now but you'll realise in time.

upthechels Posted on 06/02/2011 10:25
My girlfriend left me last night.

"I've been an idiot and pretty much set my goals in life which all revolved around her and me being together"

Once they have you thinking like that you've been tamed. You left her no mystery.

bigrichardthe3rd Posted on 06/02/2011 10:25
My girlfriend left me last night.

tom dont worry about it son,in my teens/early 20s,i would never let a lass get close to me after id bummped them that is,just let her go her own way and enjoy your self,thers plenty more fish in the sea,i looked at life like this[:P]

wally_falconer Posted on 06/02/2011 10:28
My girlfriend left me last night.

Now rich, t'is raining on the lakes estate, guess urs is too?

coluka Posted on 06/02/2011 10:29
My girlfriend left me last night.

You need your mates to rally round and do lots of lad things. Keep occupied, the less time to dwell the better and things will soon look up. Spring is on the way, lighter nights, shorter skirted women - Look on this sad event in your life as a learning curve and an opportunity to find the person you are really meant to share the best part of your life with [^]

Good luck

tom_mate Posted on 06/02/2011 10:29
My girlfriend left me last night.

I just can't imagine not speaking to her everyday and not being in touch with her. Now I'm questioning everything I'm doing with my life because i don't think I'm doing it for me.

dicky2006 Posted on 06/02/2011 10:30
My girlfriend left me last night.

come on u know the rules where the pic? [rle]

crustyclock Posted on 06/02/2011 10:30
My girlfriend left me last night.

yes this will make you stronger in the future soon you will be back on the up picking which birds ya like

scuzzmonster1 Posted on 06/02/2011 10:31
My girlfriend left me last night.

Devastating when it happens tom but, glib though this might sound, time DOES heal all. Next time, though, mind you smash a bird's back doors in before you suspect you're about to be sent to Dumpsville. Doesn't hurt nearly as much as your current state, believe me.

bigrichardthe3rd Posted on 06/02/2011 10:31
My girlfriend left me last night.

XXXXXXssssssing down wally son,,,,hope it stopes need to get the betting shop,i have to walk our lass has the car[sad]pick my winnings up[smi]

upthechels Posted on 06/02/2011 10:32
My girlfriend left me last night.

The first cut is the deedpest.

bigrichardthe3rd Posted on 06/02/2011 10:35
My girlfriend left me last night.

tom tom,,,her lose not yours,do u have a good job/nice car etc[^][rle]

Libbins Posted on 06/02/2011 10:35
My girlfriend left me last night.

dicky [:D]
Come on Tom. Pull yourself together and take it like a man. It's easy to say that, I know, but you can't just wallow, you have to try to take your mind off it. Go see your mates, your family, do stuff.
It'll hurt like fack mate, but it won't be forever.

ChrisTheRed Posted on 06/02/2011 10:38
My girlfriend left me last night.

If I was you i'd pack my bags - go to the airport - pick the next flight to Oz and get yourself away for a while!! [^]

Then put some pictures on FaceyB - she won't be so impressed then.

Enjoy.

borobadge Posted on 06/02/2011 10:38
My girlfriend left me last night.

[:D] @ dicky......

tom_mate Posted on 06/02/2011 10:54
My girlfriend left me last night.

To be honest I do feel like I need to change everything now and move away from the area, I can't stand to go about my daily routine as there is reminders of her everywhere. She's pretty much 1 in a million for me as some of you know I have terrible problems with anxiety and panic attacks and she adapted to that and helped make things manageable. That kind of friend is invaluable to me.

ron_manager Posted on 06/02/2011 10:59
My girlfriend left me last night.

The good news mate is if shes one in a million there are another 6000 odd women waiting just for Tom in wide wild world...get out lad and av em[:D]

The_King_of_Norton Posted on 06/02/2011 11:06
My girlfriend left me last night.

all very sad .......... [:I] on a brighter note, she's probably been living a lie for some time and the fact that she has plucked up the courage to finally leave you is probably making her feel really good at this point in time. So it's not ALL bad

sasboro1 Posted on 06/02/2011 11:07
My girlfriend left me last night.

hang in there mate, just get back intouch with mates and get out and start doing stuff you like enjoying and keep busy. got any hobbies or activities you are into? keep off the booze though. hit the gym or take up some physical activities. you will meet someone better. its just going to take time, as they say time is a great healer.

yozzer_hughes Posted on 06/02/2011 11:07
My girlfriend left me last night.

BigRich,

We all know your lying,

Pick winnings up from bookies???

Ur having a larf !!! [;)]

Your bets never win !! [:D]


marsked_magician Posted on 06/02/2011 11:43
My girlfriend left me last night.

Stalk her and take pictures of her wherever she goes for the next 3 months then send all the pictures to her in the post.

That'll scare the bejesus out of her. Then go round there, say, "Ooh thats awful that someone has done that. Come here you little cherrub" by which time, you've whipped her kegs off and have sailed right back into poo bay!

Jobs a good'en![^]

SGATE_NOSE_BEST Posted on 06/02/2011 11:55
My girlfriend left me last night.

ffs tom, you need to change your outlook on life. put yourself and your emotions before anyone.
in the mean time bury all the feeling you have for this bird deep down inside you and dont ever let them out again.

if you have an emotional relapse go out on a weekend bender pick a fight have a one nightstand with a thornaby/billingham tart(easiest lasses in teesside). all that should get you by until you can bury those feelings again[^]



Stanley_Downing Posted on 06/02/2011 11:56
My girlfriend left me last night.

Maybe she thought you were to needy

tom_mate Posted on 06/02/2011 12:01
My girlfriend left me last night.

Yes Stanley, that's what I think too. Can't help but blame myself. I feel suicidal, I literally don't want to wake up again tomorrow.

sasboro1 Posted on 06/02/2011 12:03
My girlfriend left me last night.

i wouldnt blame yourself..unless you have been playing away.

ring up some of your mates, i'm sure they will want to help

marsked_magician Posted on 06/02/2011 12:03
My girlfriend left me last night.

you need an all day sesh

bigrichardthe3rd Posted on 06/02/2011 12:04
My girlfriend left me last night.

yosser[;)][^]it was a good satda for me this week[:P][;)]

north_east_invader Posted on 06/02/2011 12:06
My girlfriend left me last night.

release the naked pics of the bitch you have on the internet like any decent human being.

Don't have any naked pics of her ?

Want to buy some ? [^][:D]


... seriously mate, if she's not interested you don't want her anyway. Find someone that respects you for you. Or go get XXXXXXed and phone/txt her until she gets a restraining order :-). (I do jest, and you do have my sympathy mate).

yozzer_hughes Posted on 06/02/2011 12:11
My girlfriend left me last night.

BigRich,

Yesterday morn ya put up 3 sections and 2 tips.

Not one winner amonst em [:O]

That'll be all !! [:D]

r00fie Posted on 06/02/2011 12:14
My girlfriend left me last night.

MAXI has the answer. Hes the boards "Dear Deardrie".

Stanley_Downing Posted on 06/02/2011 12:17
My girlfriend left me last night.

Get out find someone new, always helps. Learn from it in future, take things slow and go with flow.

bigrichardthe3rd Posted on 06/02/2011 12:21
My girlfriend left me last night.

i lumped on mr gardener,[sad]
had distime weth 11/4
baby run weth 11/8,,
shoegaser 11/10 ffo,also had 6 team goal rush 5 25/1 heee haaaa,,iam singing in the rain just singing in the rain what a gloriose feeling iam happy again[cr]

r00fie Posted on 06/02/2011 12:22
My girlfriend left me last night.

DOES SHE HAVE A BEST FRIEND YOU COULD.......[smi]

gravyboat Posted on 06/02/2011 12:23
My girlfriend left me last night.

I feel for you Tom. No amount of words from people on here are going to resonate with how you're currently feeling. I would think most of us have been through it at some point, and currently it probably feels like the end of the world; it isn't. Although it seems like a long way off, within time you'll wonder why it seemed as bad as it does.

Remember, just because she has decided the relationship isn't for her, it doesn't mean she's right and you're wrong. There may have been some failings on your part, but we all - her included - have failings. I imagine you feel like you've got everything wrong; you haven't. Don't beat yourself up about why she doesn't feel the same anymore; sometimes it's just the way it goes.

It's raw as hell right now, but get through it and pick yourself up as quickly as you can. Think about all the other positive things in your life - if you think hard enough there will be plenty that don't revolve around her.

I know its no consolation right now, but I've felt like this before, but - and I've surprised myself at the realisation of this - I now can't even remember who I felt like this about!

The next few weeks will be tough if you're feeling this down, but it only gets easier.


northstand126 Posted on 06/02/2011 12:23
My girlfriend left me last night.

Right I've scanned the thread and I know the usual smash her back doors in has been done but my advice would be -
"Dry your eyes mate
I know it's hard to take but her mind has been made up
There's plenty more fish in the sea" as someone once said

gravyboat Posted on 06/02/2011 12:26
My girlfriend left me last night.

All that said however, if you feel you've been too reliant on her and the relationship for your life to be the way you want it, learn from that. You've got to keep a sense of self, no matter how much you love somebody.

could_it_be Posted on 06/02/2011 12:49
My girlfriend left me last night.

stop smoking weed tom then you may have less anxiety attacks

and really, really start acting like a man instead of like some sad t1t off an american telly show

how old are you? how long were you holding hands with this lass for? did you sack all your mates off for your one true love? does your dad have a shotgun you could borrow? just go on a rampage not a ps3 one a real one

atkingson Posted on 06/02/2011 12:54
My girlfriend left me last night.

You should ask her to meet up some time for some explaining.It's very wrong that she just walked out on you.

itsthere Posted on 06/02/2011 12:59
My girlfriend left me last night.

Get yourself out on the lash rutting anything thats female and moves. You'll soon find another bint who will break your heart

ClaireSmith Posted on 06/02/2011 13:05
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom. I am the editor of a short agony aunt column in a national trailer-park-living periodical. It's called Dear Claire and appears in Gypo Monthly Magazine (1.95 from Tarmacadam Press). Here are my top 10 ways on how to cope with your break up...

1) Do not accept it is the end - You must cling onto the hope that a miracle could happen and things will go back to normal. You should text her at least hourly, set up an Interflora account and bombard her with roses and if you know where she works (and why woudn't you if you've been through her handbag) then just turn-up unnannounced at reception, with a guitar and a heart full of songs. And some flowers. Text her when you get there too.

2) Blame yourself for the break-up. It's almost certainly not her fault, even though the heartless cow has smashed your hopes and dreams to pieces with a hammer then set fire to them with a cigarette lighter and watched the embers burn while laughing hysterically. Then pulling her pants down and p*ssing all over the ashes before smearing the dirty mess all over her ample, heaving breasts. Breasticles you will never, ever see again.

3) Pamper yourself for a while - it hurts when you live through a break up. If you still have access to her house, let yourself in while she is at work and go through her knicker drawer. Dress up as her and then make phone calls from her house phone to her friends pretending to be her. Perhaps visit her elderly parents while dressed as her and explain what you're going through. They may well have a sympathetic ear.

4) Connect with your own family - you will be surprised how wonderful the love of your family feels after or during a break up. Have you got a special cousin who likes to give long, lingering hugs ? Does he have a sister that could join in ? How long is it since you and mum had a bath together ?

5) Allow yourself to heal - do not throw yourself into new relationships immediately after a break up. In the first 24 hours following a break-up you will have been w*nking like a little chimp and been through one and a half toilet rolls. By the end of week one you will have a right hand like Herr Flick, a PC so ridden with virusses it takes 30 minutes to turn on and if you shone a UV light in your bedroom the walls would look like a Haunted House. This is normal. Whether you're in a relationship or not in many cases.

6) Go into revenge mode - seek revenge for being set aside for another person in an emotionally shattering rejection. In day 1 you should send her pizzas, parmos and chinese takeaways anonymosuly to her house and watch through the hedge as she sends them all away, or has to pay for them. In day 2 you should put sugar in her petrol tank and kidnap her dog. Day 3 will see you post the dogs collar through her letter box and burn her garden shed down. Day 5 is set aside for purchasing essential items. Day 6 sees you set up the snipers position in her back garden and train the cross-hairs on her bedroom window. Day 7 sees you 'Go Hungerford' and culminates in pulling a Gazette Face on the front of the paper of the same name as you are led away with a blanket on your head by coppers. Day 8 sees you released as it turned out to be a toy-gun, but then rearrested for animak cruelty as you forgot to feed the kidnapped Bichon Frise and it starved to death. Good work fella.

7) Take up a new hobby - you might find that time lies heavy on your hands. Use that time to become the World W*nking Champion. In any given 12 hour period you should be able to knock one out every hour by virtue of a saucy picture of Tim Healy's 84 year old harridan wife in TV Quick, a photo of your nan, a sexy encounter with an electrical toothbrush and/or any sort of physical intimacy with members of the public you sit next to on a bus. Ideally not a school-bus mind. There are limits.

8) Time is the best healer - if you're still feeling low by next weekend then perhaps it's time to 'Go Ponce'.

9) Go Ponce - apply for as many credit cards as is humanly possible to fill in forms for. On receipt of cards buy yourself any number of dreaful clothes, cars and trinkets and set yourself up on Twitter. You'll be up to your knuckles in clunge before you can say c*nt. And when I say knuckles in clunge, I do of course mean neck in debt.

10) Nothing rarely happens for the good - it is likely that external forces were at hand and you have been royally f*cked right over. A simple, but grown up, conversation with her about the rights and wrongs of the break-up are certainly in order. Women tend to prefer these conversations to happen at randon times, usually late at night when the man is in drink and ideally starting on the phone (or via a late-night Radio Phone In) and ultimately terminating in a fist-fight in the garden around 3am. You know what you have to do sonshine, so use this event as a learning measure for self growth and go get yourself a dressing gown, fishing rod, can of Eight Ace and a chicken portion and keep your pecker up.

Hope this helps.

Claire x

Stanley_Downing Posted on 06/02/2011 13:06
My girlfriend left me last night.

Stick some music on, not sad music though something to pick you up and sing along to. "Iiiiii can't stand it I know you planned it"

swordtrombonefish Posted on 06/02/2011 13:12
My girlfriend left me last night.

[^]Claire

As usual the advice from all & sundry is sound [8)]
I'm sure Tom will be fully recovered now [:D]

_hachinger_jungs Posted on 06/02/2011 13:17
My girlfriend left me last night.

I can think of a certain 'Wayne County and the Electric Chairs' song/video that might ease your pain, but on this occasion I don't have the balls to post a link.

atkingson Posted on 06/02/2011 13:18
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom... Don't listen to people taking the pish out of you. You need to go and have a nice long chat with YOUR girlfriend as she's either messing with someone else or she's just going crazy. YOU deserve an explanation as to why she's left you . I'm sure the reason behind her leaving you is far more than just 'I don't love you anymore'.

swordtrombonefish Posted on 06/02/2011 13:28
My girlfriend left me last night.

His EX-girlfriend owes him nothing & does not have to explain her choices to anyone. Tom did not own her despite his feelings.

Roswell Posted on 06/02/2011 13:38
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom, this is not the place to be pouring your heart out - too many p155 takers.

Go see a good friend or a family member who will comfort you, understand your problems and give you advice.

Chin up and good luck.

tom_mate Posted on 06/02/2011 13:51
My girlfriend left me last night.

Thanks for all the nice stuff said.

MawTheMerrier Posted on 06/02/2011 13:59
My girlfriend left me last night.

As one door closes, another smashes in yer face [:D]

Just get out and forget her, asap.

reggie01 Posted on 06/02/2011 14:11
My girlfriend left me last night.

Dont know how old you are .. Im 31.. and I could easily have written this post 10 years ago including the anxiety and panic attacks..

Was a rocky road for a while to be honest..It sounds like lots going on for you aside from the realtionship so my advice would be to get some professional therapuetic support.. Pay for it if you can afford it .. or go to Drs and request it ..

I did this 4 years ago (7 years to late) and it was very helpful..Also helpful for me was travelling Oz/NZ/US are great places to start..Really builds your confidence if you can stick out the tough bits at the beginning ..plus travelling is one of the best ways to meet women..

gravyboat Posted on 06/02/2011 14:34
My girlfriend left me last night.

'Breasticles you will never, ever see again'
[:D]


tom_mate Posted on 06/02/2011 15:07
My girlfriend left me last night.

Yeah I'm 22 now.
The bad thing is that I began studying at university with the thought in mind that it would benefit both of us in the future, I'm not doing it for myself or because my hearts really in it, now I have to question why I'm there and if it's really for me.
I'm not interested in meeting any other women right now, the thought of it makes me feel sick.
I will have to seek help and see what options are available because my head is not in the right place to deal with something like this.

joseph99 Posted on 06/02/2011 15:11
My girlfriend left me last night.

time is a healer and life is about management of major dissapoinments

billybob Posted on 06/02/2011 15:13
My girlfriend left me last night.

Someone should have sat you down years ago and warned you off having serious relationships at your age because they never last. Play the field, have some laughs and when your older you might want to settle down with a lass who isn't going to break your heart.

I promise you that in a few weeks when you can go out when you please, get drunk, stay up late and shag around she'll be a passing thought at best.

MawTheMerrier Posted on 06/02/2011 15:26
My girlfriend left me last night.

A woman once dumped me.

The fool!


ThorntreeExile Posted on 06/02/2011 15:48
My girlfriend left me last night.

mope about till next Saturday then come and join me and friends on the following menu : -

(Venues subject to change)

12.30pm - Eston/Normanby Club - Man Utd v Man City

Taxi to Riverside - Boro v Swansea

Approx 5pm - Lloyds Bar for some cheap ale

Approx 7.30pm - You choose..probably your best bet would be Last Orders if you are in need of a one night stand [^][^]

Back on track after then [;)]

reggie01 Posted on 06/02/2011 15:49
My girlfriend left me last night.

Plenty of time to turn it around.. at 22.. I had a complete career change at 26 .. I know people who have done the same succesfully in there late 30's I def wouldnt base any major life decisions on the needs of others in your 20's or make any decisions when feeling low/angry/jealous etc .. take time and get help to work things through how long have you left on your course? If your close to finishing may as well see it through then get yoursef away ..will def make you view things differently ..and don't let it put you off relationships either there are good, thoughtful unselfish women out there!

Dan_Ashcroft Posted on 06/02/2011 15:50
My girlfriend left me last night.

[^][^] Claire - that was one of the best things I've ever read. Make sure you save it, because it needs printing and framing.

Tuncay_alves_ftw Posted on 06/02/2011 15:54
My girlfriend left me last night.

Go To Secets. Touch a few boobs. Get XXXXXXted by the bounces [^] they'l make you foget!

bblf Posted on 06/02/2011 16:07
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom I got dumped by a long term girlfriend I loved. Hurts like hell and takes time to get over escially if shes your first love.
After a couple of years of nailing anything as many as possible I Met someone else who I married,
I now have a an wonderful family who I adore.
Saw my first love last week , she looks like the back end of the 263 while my wife is as fit as feck. Happy days.

yozzer_hughes Posted on 06/02/2011 17:09
My girlfriend left me last night.

FFS ... MAN UP YA SOFT GIT !!

YOUR 22 ,

NOT 52 !

JUST IMAGINE HOW POOR MAXI FEELS,

OLD,FAT,BALD,AINT HAD A WOMAN IN TEN YRS AND GOES OUT DRINKING WITH SO CALLED FRIENDS WHO AS SOON AS HE TURNS UP IN THE SNIFFY GIVE A COLLECTIVE 'OH XXXXXX' !!

[;)]

NedKat Posted on 06/02/2011 17:10
My girlfriend left me last night.

TOM ...!!!

No more of this "don't wanna wake up tomorrow" shyte ! Here's what yer do ... You go out every night with all yer mates, and get drunk as a skunk. You get involved with all thise dirty orange fake tan girls, and bonk as many as possible, leaving a trail of knotted condoms as you wreak havoc !

If she doesn't love you, there's bugger all you can do about it, so sitting around feeling sorry for yerself is not worth the time !!

Life is far too short to wallow in lost loves !

Cecil_J_Mctumshie Posted on 06/02/2011 17:16
My girlfriend left me last night.

only one thing for it if life is so bad-SUICIDE-I can supply some cyanide if that helps

HarryVegas Posted on 06/02/2011 17:35
My girlfriend left me last night.

Mrs Smith you are a cruel genius [:D][:D]

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 06/02/2011 18:16
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom right now you think you are the only one who has felt like you do.

The fact is that almost everyone (including those on here taking the p!ss) have felt the same at some point. Your not a stupid kid with a crush at 22 years old, but life does go on.

You need to make a conscious effort to shake it off. Trust me it's the habit and routine that will screw you over.

Good Luck [^]

r00fie Posted on 06/02/2011 18:19
My girlfriend left me last night.

Bring back The Madhouse. If you didnt pull in there it was only because it wasnt open[:o)]

chesterdrawers Posted on 06/02/2011 18:24
My girlfriend left me last night.

buy the missile thats for sale in the other thread and blow her fcuking house up


option 2
take a leaf out of my book

i only get stunning women because of what i am









wait






























wait

























A RAPIST [^]

Bandy Posted on 07/02/2011 10:18
My girlfriend left me last night.

sounds harsh but grow some bollox and get to more Boro games. You'll forget her after 3 weeks and be back on the sniff[:P]

Smoggy_the_Barbarian Posted on 07/02/2011 10:38
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom,

In life we all go through these ups and downs. We need the downs so that we learn to enjoy and appreciate the ups.

It is bound to hurt like hell initially, but when you get past the grief, you will start to look at the brighter side. Start living the life that you want to live, by being happy with your life you will become more interesting to others and that will help your own self esteem.

I spent many years in an unhappy marriage, but once I got out my life has never been happier. My friends are now jealous of my life as the are stuck in the situation that I used to be. If your relationship was not meant to be, then feel lucky it has ended so that you can find another person to have fun with.

Bandy Posted on 07/02/2011 10:40
My girlfriend left me last night.

it's easier on the conscience to be dumped than to have to do the dumping. The only dumping a man should enjoy is a good log after saturday night oot

Midosparmo Posted on 07/02/2011 10:43
My girlfriend left me last night.

Treat em mean and keep em keen [^] You are too soft son.

Thats what my mrs does and it seems to work [^]

tom_mate Posted on 07/02/2011 10:58
My girlfriend left me last night.

Cheers Smoggy, but this wasn't an unhappy relationship, this was the most important thing in my life, I could clearly see me living my life with her by my side, the worst thing is still being in love with her when she isn't, I can't just flick a switch and not care anymore.

And yeah I know I come across as being soft or pathetic but I can't really help that, this is just how I am.

Bandy Posted on 07/02/2011 11:00
My girlfriend left me last night.

Time is a good healer. You will be embarassed with this thread in 6 months time

newyddion Posted on 07/02/2011 11:09
My girlfriend left me last night.

don't look back x

Smoggy_the_Barbarian Posted on 07/02/2011 11:10
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom, sorry I didn't mean that yours is an unhappy relationship, you sound as though you were very happy. However your other half wasn't as happy as you. If this is the case you can not make someone love you as much as you love them. In the long term this would create you more problems. It really is best to try to let go and move on.

I know it sounds very harsh at the moment, Believe me I have been there in a very similar situation myself, but you do have to look forward to the future and not look back at what might have been.

Stick in there and you will get through it.

mickbrown Posted on 07/02/2011 11:12
My girlfriend left me last night.

Use NLP.

Everytime she pops into your head, close your eyes and repeat the words "feck off" 3 times.

You'll forget about her in no time. Honestly.

ClaireSmith - utter genius, btw.

Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 11:20
My girlfriend left me last night.

Having only been dumped the once, I feel its my place and duty to comment.

I think you should ignore her, and move on mate. If you think that you feel crap now, imagine if you go back to her?


atkingson Posted on 07/02/2011 11:23
My girlfriend left me last night.

Arrange a meeting with her so she can do some explaining to you. Just ask her why she walked out on you as the truth will set you free and then you can call a truce with her to even things out.

Midosparmo Posted on 07/02/2011 11:27
My girlfriend left me last night.

"Arrange a meeting with her so she can do some explaining to you. Just ask her why she walked out on you as the truth will set you free and then you can call a truce with her to even things out. "

Bad move she will probably tell you her new squeeze has a much bigger d1ck and that will affect your confidence even more.

Get a prozzy and pay her to tell you what a big one you have got [^]


Bandy Posted on 07/02/2011 12:11
My girlfriend left me last night.

Just completley ignore her

Kevlar Posted on 07/02/2011 12:16
My girlfriend left me last night.

Is it Giro day Tom?

Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 12:20
My girlfriend left me last night.

Dont shag about, because you will feel absolutely awful for doing so.

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 07/02/2011 12:28
My girlfriend left me last night.

Did she break your heart evil?

smoggieboy Posted on 07/02/2011 12:35
My girlfriend left me last night.

grow some balls
get yourself out and about enjoy the freedom
stop posting on message boards
man up

marsked_magician Posted on 07/02/2011 12:41
My girlfriend left me last night.

ask her to come round for a chat then dangle some fake legs from the ceiling in view of the front window.

That should put the sh!ts up her

chorleyphil Posted on 07/02/2011 12:58
My girlfriend left me last night.

If your feeling 'suicidal' now mate.......just wait till she starts seeing someone else.


Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 13:57
My girlfriend left me last night.

No EBD I was only seeing her for 6 weeks and she gave me someat the dirty swine.

wowee_zowee Posted on 07/02/2011 14:09
My girlfriend left me last night.

always remember that gin never leaves you.

gin never lets you down.

gin. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

hic.

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 07/02/2011 14:12
My girlfriend left me last night.

I thought thats why you did loads of banging Evil. To make up for it [^]

The_263 Posted on 07/02/2011 14:19
My girlfriend left me last night.

If it's any consolation NOW there's a 99% probablilty that she will coming run back to you once you are in love with another girl [FACt]

Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 14:34
My girlfriend left me last night.

No she was hot, but pretty boring.

(sounds like a bitter statement that)

The lasses i banged were not hot.

Smoggy_the_Barbarian Posted on 07/02/2011 14:35
My girlfriend left me last night.

Sheep, Goats and Donkeys are the way forward [^]

Norton_Boro86 Posted on 07/02/2011 15:20
My girlfriend left me last night.

100 posts [^]

Lee_Miller_Fan_Club Posted on 07/02/2011 15:39
My girlfriend left me last night.

Who needs a girlfriend, 100 posts!

Congrats on the Tonne you miserable git! [;)]

wowee_zowee Posted on 07/02/2011 15:46
My girlfriend left me last night.

"you might've broke my heart... but i've broken a fly me 100!" [:D]

if you can't win her back by serenading her with that then i don't know what will work.

chesterdrawers Posted on 07/02/2011 16:30
My girlfriend left me last night.

Sheep, Goats and Donkeys are the way forward



never touch pigs
they always squeel on you [^]

fez80 Posted on 07/02/2011 17:45
My girlfriend left me last night.

you didnt get her a rampant rabbit for xmas did you? its always a downfall




BOROMAN28 Posted on 07/02/2011 18:04
My girlfriend left me last night.

is tom still with us??

The_Duke Posted on 07/02/2011 18:11
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom I think most blokes have their relationship ended against their wishes and I'm one of those. I won't lie the first few months will be hard because I had my life planned with her and in the space of half an hour it was shattered it was difficult but it's an old cliche but time is a great healer. These days most people don't settle down tip their late 20's early 30's so you've got plenty time. My best advice wud be to keep busy, get ur freinds, go out get drunk, whatever it takes but don't cling on to the hope that she might have a change of heart and come running back to you because that ain't gonna happen and if it does bonus. But in reality she's probably been thinking about this break up for a while and in her own mind will have justified it. In time you'll meet someone else, it cud b next week it cud be next year but you will and you'l look back on this and be a stronger person for it. Good luck.

steelred Posted on 07/02/2011 18:41
My girlfriend left me last night.

"sounds harsh but grow some bollox and get to more Boro games. You'll forget her after 3 weeks and be back on the sniff"

Bandy, are you trying to finish the poor lad off?
Tom, you will be fine with time, your just a young lad.

billywoofslovechild Posted on 07/02/2011 19:00
My girlfriend left me last night.

go and Bag a few randoms mate, that'll make you feel better

tom_mate Posted on 07/02/2011 19:04
My girlfriend left me last night.

Thanks guys, just really not coping well with it at all but my mates are being good to me, it's when I'm alone thats the worst.

JimmyFloydPiggybank Posted on 07/02/2011 20:10
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom lad, Claire Smith has gave you some sound advice.

Her publication is enroute for your to read, lots of tips for pulling at Appleby horse fair. You will get a bird who will cook clean and report in.

Serious tips, finish your course, delete her number and get yourself on holiday when you finish. Try and do lots of sport and keep active.

My Mrs who is reading this post agrees with the wisdom of Claire Smith, but you may want to take up ball room or salsa dancing, and buy a poodle called rover.

Also you might to try and win her back, try a Fathers for Justice stunt, get dressed up as batman, and reveal a heart shaped banner saying I love you from the top of the Transporter.[^]

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 07/02/2011 21:39
My girlfriend left me last night.

Evil, we have followed similar life paths [:D][^]

Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 21:44
My girlfriend left me last night.

Thats probably because we're both the same age mate.

Although I have less psychotic tendencies than you think. [^]

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 07/02/2011 21:48
My girlfriend left me last night.

[:D] Nah, kidding you pal [^]

Where do you live Evil?

Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 21:50
My girlfriend left me last night.

In north hampshire now mate.

You in london?

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 07/02/2011 21:57
My girlfriend left me last night.

Yeah, North London.

Why weren't you up for Palace? Thought I might have finally got that beer you owe me.

Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 21:59
My girlfriend left me last night.

Are you trying to groom me?

Had the littlen mate, and my flat in southampton just cost me 500!

Never rains but it pours son! Soon mate soon. Missing the Boro big time me like.

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 07/02/2011 22:03
My girlfriend left me last night.

Admittedly my last few posts look shady as they mix sex with enquiries as to your whereabouts and movements. [xx(]

Rest assured that's not the case though [^]

Just funny that a few of your posts remind me of similar scenarios I have found myself in.

stevespriggs Posted on 07/02/2011 22:03
My girlfriend left me last night.

FFS Tom, if your mates are still with you then they are obviously better than her. Take it from me WORSE THINGS THAN THIS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU! Now go out and drink plenty of lash. Alcohol is the cure of evils

Evil Posted on 07/02/2011 22:08
My girlfriend left me last night.

I think its normal to end up banging rough birds in a period of discontent.

Ive done it plenty of times. [:D]

JimmyFloydPiggybank Posted on 08/02/2011 20:31
My girlfriend left me last night.

Are you still with us Tom lad? Your a fighter chin up[ref]

atkingson Posted on 08/02/2011 20:33
My girlfriend left me last night.

I think you should go on ComeOnboro for any of this kind of advice in future Tom and anyone else.

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 08/02/2011 23:29
My girlfriend left me last night.

Hows It going Tom?

Tortured_Mind Posted on 09/02/2011 10:03
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . TOM!

tom_mate Posted on 09/02/2011 10:28
My girlfriend left me last night.

I don't drink, I'm not going to start now.

It's not getting any easier, but I'm going to speak to a professional this afternoon. I've also got in contact with my personal tutor at uni to try and speak to him about my future there.

There just seems to be nothing I can do to get my mind off it, I can't even watch TV or go to the gym and I don't even care about going to see the Boro anymore.

sasboro1 Posted on 09/02/2011 10:31
My girlfriend left me last night.

you will have to push yourself to get out and do stuff, just dont sit in dwelling on stuff. first you've got to stop feeling sorry for yourself and want to move on. you need to get out of the houses and occupy all your spare time

Evil Posted on 09/02/2011 10:36
My girlfriend left me last night.

What the fck mate!

Its just a woman, get a life.

Go out and stop moping, believe me its the worst thing you can do.

Book a holiday.

DONT QUIT COLLEGE/UNI.

Midosparmo Posted on 09/02/2011 10:38
My girlfriend left me last night.

Go out and have a riot Tom [^] (not a student protest type one though[V])

Tortured_Mind Posted on 09/02/2011 10:49
My girlfriend left me last night.

I've been through a similar situation when a relationship broke up. Like you I thought the bottom had dropped out of my world. It was hard for months but here I am the same T_M. You've just got to try and weather the storm.

sasboro1 Posted on 09/02/2011 10:52
My girlfriend left me last night.

how long left on your studying? you shouldnt quit that cos you will regret it later on. even if its not going to be your career path dont chuck that away.

tom_mate Posted on 09/02/2011 11:03
My girlfriend left me last night.

I'm only halfway through my first year, still have at least 2 and a half more to go, I don't see how I can if my hearts not in it.

sasboro1 Posted on 09/02/2011 11:05
My girlfriend left me last night.

thats not too bad then. shouldnt be an issue. do you still want to study? if so what to? you need something to focus on and not just let yourself go

Tortured_Mind Posted on 09/02/2011 11:06
My girlfriend left me last night.

That's the same symptoms I had. Just stick with it and it can only get easier in a few months time. I see the lass I broke up with from time to time and it doesn't affect me at all now. I wouldn't go back with her and count myself lucky in a way by the way she looks now.

tom_mate Posted on 09/02/2011 11:11
My girlfriend left me last night.

The problem is I always want to be friends with her, we've known each other for years and years and she's always been my best friend even before our relationship. Anybody who is lucky enough to have a best friend should have that friend for life and never lose them no matter how the circumstances change.

Smoggy_the_Barbarian Posted on 09/02/2011 11:16
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom,

You are getting some great advice and support from this site, I hope that you appreciate that perople do care.

However you are beginning to sound a bit pathetic, don't even think about chucking your course in. Many people would love to have the chance to study, don't throw your future away over a woman.
It may sound harsh, but you must think about the positive things that you have in your life and look forward not look at what might have been.

MarlonD Posted on 09/02/2011 11:18
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom, contrary to popular belief, drink is the answer.

As are class A drugs if you can get hold of them.

Midosparmo Posted on 09/02/2011 11:20
My girlfriend left me last night.

Its the chicken and egg scenario:

Did Tom become pathetic because his lass dumped him?

or;

Did Toms lass dump him because he is pathetic?

Get a grip Tommy boy!

SmoginManila Posted on 09/02/2011 11:22
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom lad there's some good advice on this thread .

Basically its this

For the next few months you gonna feel like $hit.

You need to deal with this bit.

Because immediately after that you are gonna feel great about yourself and your prospects and the chicks you will have your pick and choice from!

Time REALLY is a great healer. But you got to do the time. Accept you gonna feel crap over things in the short term but Sooner than you think you will be back on top of your game.

Its what makes you a man

Evil Posted on 09/02/2011 11:23
My girlfriend left me last night.

FFS lad, as people are saying, get a grip.

She will probably have been smashed by some other bloke by now, and wont even care.

Friends, yeah right, then what happens when you see her with a new bloke?

That 'friendship' will be over in two seconds flat.

Stop moping about and get yourself out and keep busy.

tom_mate Posted on 09/02/2011 11:24
My girlfriend left me last night.

XXXXXX off evil you're a XXXXXX.

atkingson Posted on 09/02/2011 11:26
My girlfriend left me last night.

Cold hearted post there Evil .

gravyboat Posted on 09/02/2011 11:28
My girlfriend left me last night.

Evil giving people advice on 'not moping about'. FFS.

Do the lad a favour, and talk shyte on another thread.

Tom,

Get yerself and a few lads down to watch Stokesley on Saturday - its a good laugh.

Midosparmo Posted on 09/02/2011 11:31
My girlfriend left me last night.

Guisboroughs a better bet this season we win games and score lots of goals [^]

Cecil_J_Mctumshie Posted on 09/02/2011 11:51
My girlfriend left me last night.

am I the only one who thinks Tom is on a wind-up and hasn't split from his lass-he wants to see how many replies he gets to his made up sob story

Emmersons_BrazillianDong Posted on 09/02/2011 12:34
My girlfriend left me last night.

"As are class A drugs if you can get hold of them."

agree with that but be careful you don't just supress your feelings as it will bite you on the @rse in years to come!

You need to accept it's over (not necissarily right now, this minute) but you need closure.

Evil Posted on 09/02/2011 12:37
My girlfriend left me last night.

Exactly Cecil.

jimmythewondercat Posted on 09/02/2011 12:38
My girlfriend left me last night.

I hope it is a wind up - it's convincing if slightly too sad - I just can't believe anyone would really want to bare their raw soul on here.

If it is real, all I can say is that it will get better mate. Time is a wonderful thing.

But if I had to call it, this is a very good spoof.

Perhaps Admin could tell us if this a usual suspect under a new name?!

B-MAN Posted on 09/02/2011 12:49
My girlfriend left me last night.

when I split up from my girlfriend of 8 years I went back to the parents, bought some cans and 20 marlborough lights and sat in my room playing pre evo all night. Next night i went and got hammered in town with my mates........professional help, dear god.

DowningAlbion Posted on 09/02/2011 13:11
My girlfriend left me last night.

Tom, book a holiday to Thailand for your four week Easter break, you'll never look back son [:P]

Seriously though, it's winter, you've had your heart broken, you are (possibly) in Middlesbrough. No wonder you are depressed.

Spring is just around the corner and you will feel better. Laughter really is the best medicine so don't focus on anything serious. Watch funny films and programs and go and see the Boro.

I've had my heart broken four times mate, including 1st year of university. It felt awful but I didn't pack my course in and the next term I met the first real love of my life. She broke my heart four years later but I'd do it all again...[;)]

DO NOT PACK YOUR COURSE IN. EXPLAIN THE SITUATION AND WHITE KNUCKLE IT TO THE SUMMER THEN MAKE A DECISION AFTER PASSING YOUR 1ST YEAR. YOU COULD TRANSFER TO ANOTHER COURSE/LOCATION AFTER THAT.

eddyspants Posted on 09/02/2011 13:18
My girlfriend left me last night.

tom_mate and tortured_mind seem a bit too similar... Are they in parrallel universes with different time zone[rle]

tom_mate Posted on 09/02/2011 14:37
My girlfriend left me last night.

I know itsstrange to pour my heart on here but it was just a quick way of getting advice from all sorts of different people. I'm just desperate and will do anything for help.
I would like to leave Boro and go around the world or something but due to my anxiety I have never been able to go away by myself or with my mates, I managed to build up confidence to feel comfortable staying with her though.

Lee_Miller_Fan_Club Posted on 09/02/2011 14:49
My girlfriend left me last night.

Jesus Christ mate, get a grip is my best advice.

Get pi55ed, shag a few munters, and send the ex a few abusive texts. Jobs a good un!

IMUK Posted on 09/02/2011 14:55
My girlfriend left me last night.

I love relationship advice on here. Personally I think it's time for you to start "going through" her female relatives. That'll show 'er!

Smoggy_the_Barbarian Posted on 09/02/2011 15:00
My girlfriend left me last night.

No start off with the pets, then build your way up the food chain.

TeeSv Posted on 09/02/2011 15:03
My girlfriend left me last night.

can't be ar$$ed going through all the threads of advice, so just in case it hasn't been mentioned already. If your lass has left you, do as your username tells you......Tom Mate.....that's what they're there for on occasions such as these

chesterdrawers Posted on 10/02/2011 08:35
My girlfriend left me last night.

i think it would be a good idea to smash her mothers back doors in tom ; and then tell her about it ; that will do your confidence the world of good ; especialy if she has to start calling you DADDY [;)]